Laughing it off…

I had a crazy, funny dream this morning just before waking up!! I think I released a lot of anger I had been holding onto – woke up chuckling, almost laughing.  I just felt lighter, less burdened about something.

In the dream, I had been working somewhere, and had been given notice that my “term” had been reduced. I was talking to a co-worker about it and then suddenly found myself in the produce section of a grocer’s, and someone there was throwing an angry fit, grabbing huge watermelons, and forcefully hurling them to the floor so that they exploded all over everyone.  A man attempted to stop the person from doing this, and he ended up going down into a dishevelled heap with the next melon. 

Then, the person heaving the melons stopped, picked up the “deflated” man, shook him out, and set him down in a chair. I could sense myself witnessing all of this, and trying, unsuccessfully, not to laugh at the scene, while the man who had been squashed, sat trying not to laugh at my efforts to try not laughing. It was infectious, as others around me also were trying not to laugh, lots of snickering going on.

Anyways, I woke up to the sound of my kitty meowing to be let into the room, but still carrying the visual of the guy snickering in the background.

I think my sense of humor gets me past a lot of the junk that comes up (from Holosync meditation practice), so I’m guessing that what I’m passing along here is that trying to keep a lighter perspective of things when they “look like hell” is helpful.  Just remembering now (a mental trigger firing) that in Tarot, the Devil card esoterically represents “humor” – all the incongruities/miss-matches on the card represent the “sh*t that happens” in our lives, and the best way to get past most of it is to just WITNESS it, perhaps laugh at it if possible, and move forward.

Have a gloriously happy Spring!

Sheila

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Sharing Light

We are as light striking a prism, splashing out into the world in a cheerful dance of a million colours.

We are as light striking a still pool of water, and glancing sharply off of it to illumine everything else around.

We are as stars collecting in the heavens, brilliant diamond points, creating myriad shapes to guide the consciousnesses of a billion worlds.

We are light when we smile and light up a room for someone who has sat in darkness too long.

We can bring light in many ways into the world around us. Sometimes we need reminding. Sometimes we just need some help in recognizing how to do that.

How did you share your light today? Could you share that with us, so another may find a way to do it also?

Blessings to all,
Sheila

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Do You Smoke? Want to Quit?

On a Hypnotherapy/NLP forum I frequent, we’ve recently been having a discussion regarding Smoking Cessation.  Some Hypnotists have expressed that they were becoming discouraged with their efforts to help clients quit smoking cigarettes.  Let’s face it – if you’re a Hypnotist committed to helping someone break free from a habit that, for all intents and purposes, is a slow form of suicide, it can get pretty discouraging when it appears your work is, literally, “going up in smoke”.  Some of my discussion around this has been incorporated in the paragraphs below, and will be of interest to both Hypnotists and their clients.

In the discussion we talked about client commitment to the process.  Without the client being committed to the process for their own reasons, it is fruitless to move forward.  So some Hypnotists just give up at that point, and either let the potential client go to someone else for help, or the clients gives up completely on quitting.

Neither is a good choice.  Why?  Because potential smoking cessation clients who call to get help generally DO want to quit, and most are trying desperately to figure out how to do that, but have bought into the whole “It’s so hard” deal that they really do need your help, as a Hypnotist, to get to the next stage – deciding once and for all to take the plunge.

In terms of NLP modalities, most people either move toward something or away from something.  People tend to move away from something that might appear too painful, difficult, etc. to undertake.  I think the biggest challenge is getting the client to move toward something, rather than to move away from something. People that smoke are actually really good at moving toward something;  after all they’ve been moving toward cigarettes the whole time they’ve been hooked on them. To many smokers, giving up cigarettes is like giving up an old friend, or giving up something they have falsely thought gave them more control over stress. Once they are educated about how smoking actually adds stress, they generally have very few, if any, excuses to continue.

So I believe it’s a matter of diverting the attention away from the sensation that says “Gotta have a cigarette!” and move it toward something more healthy. The client must decide to follow through – they have a monetary investment (because they must pay for the two sessions up-front to make the commitment), so most will do that. If they don’t follow through (with the homework and methodology), and still feel they are ready to quit, it may cost them a bit more for the extra session or two – when they finally realize they either have to ‘go it alone’ or have the help hypnosis can provide. Most choose the latter.

Much of my first session for smoking cessation clients is focused on getting them to recognize the feelings associated with when they feel they need a cigarette, and to move the attention from that urge to something else. Like any habit, the more a person chooses the alternative (healthy) response, the more imbedded it becomes in the sub-conscious mind. I actually find NLP works better than direct suggestion for this part, because we can anchor in the desired response.

For heavy smokers, between the first and second sessions, I tend to have them cut back by five cigarettes per day, until at the fifth or seventh day (depending on pack size normally smoked), they arrive at their session not having smoked that day. Naturally, they are given motivation and help to do this with the hypnotic suggestions I provide in the initial session. I explain on the first session (I do a two session protocol, generally) that on the day they arrive at the office NOT having smoked, is the day they start a NEW habit in their lives. Up until that point, they have been practicing recognition of the urges, and gradually replacing cigarettes with doing the new habit. It is that NEW habit that we are motivating with hypnosis to keep, and in keeping the new habit, they are learning to have control over every area of their lives that had previously been dominated by the old habit. I embed the positive experience by having a small celebration, which anchors in the new habit.

This is how I quit smoking on my own (using self-hypnosis) nearly 10 years ago. I know it works.

PS: I smoked heavily for thirty years, and tried more times than I can think of to quit, with minimal success and then back on the butts again. I was finally given the choice by my employer to quit or be fired (he was a heart surgeon), and I finally recognized that I was tired of hacking up a lung every morning, and decided the job meant more to me than continuing to smoke. But I still had to break all of the numerous habits that held me chained to the cigarettes – and that’s what keeps most people stuck – the habits that go along with the smoking habit.

Sheila

Hypnosis as Spiritual Work

Off and on I’ve had the discussion with people about Guardian Angels.  Some people have expressed that we have anywhere from one to several, just waiting to do our bidding.  I have on rare occasions sensed the presence of an Angel, more by energy, but on one particular occasion, very clearly while I was in deep meditation.

Having been channeling for almost thirty years, I also believe in “Guides”, but I don’t put “Guides” in the same category as “Angels”, guardian or otherwise.  Regardless of the name, I believe that we can and will receive spiritual guidance from somewhere if we are open to it.

Recently I was having my final hypnosis session (out of 6) with a client, and I asked him what area he felt we needed to finish off with to conclude this phase of the hypnosis work we were doing. I was somewhat caught off guard, and didn’t have a particular script, or even outline of one, for the particular item that he brought up. So I proceeded to induce and deepen his hypnotic trance, and as I did so, I somewhat followed him down, as I do with most clients. Simultaneously I was seeking guidance of where to go with this, once I had him in his ‘safe place’.

Meadow StreamSuddenly I’m sensing a meadow;  lush green grass, trees and a clear shallow stream with large smooth stones in the stream. So I guided him to the meadow scene and had him reach down into the stream and pull out three of the stones, and as they emerged from the water, each of them bore a word that shone out in rainbow colours. I then had him hold each of the stones to his head, heart and in front of his mouth respectively, so that the energy from the words could enter into his body, elaborating metaphorically on each.

Upon emerging him, he was grinning ear-to-ear. Apparently, as a child he used to play a game with stones that had magical powers if you held them to your body. He loved the rainbow lights coming off the stones, and he admitted he was a little bit ticked off when I suggested it was time to leave the meadow and come back to his ‘safe place’.  Many of my clients have expressed similar sentiments when I’ve suggested its time to come back from wherever they’ve gone while we do the work with their subconscious mind.

So was this the work of his Guardian Angels leading me to somewhere he would recognize and where he would feel very comfortable ? Perhaps our Guides communicating that to my mind? Or was it a solid subconscious link with the client at spiritual levels? Perhaps all of these?

Regardless of what it was, it worked very well to get the job done, and I have a very happy client who has worked very hard with my guidance to gain peace, calm and control in his life.

Sheila

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